My daughter

Welcome, I'm sorry friend, I gotta ask, what were the circumstances surrounding the situation for your child being removed from you?
Would be wise to utilize this time to do everything possible & necessary (court ordered) to regain custody while keeping in mind that your mom didnt want this to happen, I'm sure, yet feared for her grandchilds well being & wanted to keep her best interests at heart, with that said, so do you, now you have some work to do to turn this ship around & take the bull by the horns & get your baby back.

Are you in any form of counseling, if affordable? Are you employed? Are you able bodied emotionally/physically? Is there a history of addiction? You'd mentioned neglect & your mom doesnt trust you "for some reason", your words, so must be more underlining the situation that your not willing to acknowledge yet huh??????

It's alright hon, you've got to begin somewhere, so lets start here.........lets talk about it.......

Well back in July of 2011 me and my daughter witch is Allison we went to Chicago to see my boyfriend for to weeks came back and my dad kicked me out with a baby .. Than we stayed one night with a friend my baby feel off the bed with me so she had bruieces on here she got really sick had to take her to the hospital they check her out and course Dhs got called on me. Than went to my grandparents the next day everything thing was ok Dhs came to talk to me bout her bruicese on her I told them what happend... The July 26 on Allison first birthday I had to go get her check out and I couldn't go back there bc of the Dhs thing than we left I had to go take her to the er to run some test on her well everything came out ok than couple of days later my mom went to my grandparent telling me I need to leave and they are taking Allison from me. I went to a friends house still wouldn't let me have Allison . So september came around still didn't get her so I went to Chicago to stay with him I still didn't get Allison.. So I came back to Tulsa Oklahoma to stay with a friend try to get her back still didn't get her. Went to court on the 9th of feb 2012 still didn't get Allison my mom and dad has her for another year I don't have visitation rights or nothing . Telling me if I go back to Chicago I don't get my daughter back be they don't like my boyfriend at all. They told the courts that we beat Allison and I abandon her. Theta not true ... She the one kept my daughter from me... She said when or of I do she will make sure I can't leave the state of Oklahoma with Allison.. She wanted me to have abortion with her and I wouldn't do it. My mom calls me names. Tells me I have visitation rights on Allison I don't either I get to see her every now and than.. I wanna get help on this . Idk who to talk to

Hi Amanda, If I'm understanding you correctly this is all going on in Oklahoma. I just moved away from Oklahoma and know a little bit about the state. Is it the state DHS that took your daughter away or Indian Child Welfare? If your child has any part of any indian tribe in her then Indian Child Welfare of that tribe needs to be handling the case. Being that you are in Oklahoma I'm half expecting you to say that they have your case.

Because you are in the situation you are in doesn't mean you are a bad mom. Please don't punish yourself. Right now you need to focus on getting your daughter back. Find a permanent place to live, a steady job, and stay in touch with your case worker. The best thing you can do is take someone with you every time you go over to see Allison, that way you have a witness to how you are treated and how she is treated by others in the house. You want to be able to have whatever information you can to help your case go through so that you can get her back. Make sure you make every appointment set for you and be there EARLY.

I know it's going to be hard sweetie but I believe you can do this. If you need some more support or guidance please PM me. Linda

Linda thanks no my mom took her from me but we went threw the Indian Cherokee court in wagnor they r the ones gave Allison back to my mom. I dont like Oklahoma I don't even wanna be here. The courts doesn't want me to take Allison out of state I don't c how they can do that .. I do go see her. When it's up to my mother . I don't like going over their bc I feel out of place.. My mom and step dad trying to adobet her so there's nothing I can really do they have money so I'm sure they hsve a case. I didn't hsve a case when I went to court . I didn't geven get to talk all the judge said was Allison will b with your mom for a year he wouldn't even give me visitation ..

I'm hopeful you private messaged Linda & do take care of you while wading through this unfortunate experience. Your mother IS creating long term resentment/abandonment issues for your daughter in keeping her away from her mommy.

Stay strong.

Amanda, I'm going to private message you with a link to the Cherokee Nation Bar Association attorney list. If you go page by page you'll find attorneys in the Tulsa area. Keep calling them until you find one that will work Pro Bono. You can also call or stop by the court clerk's office and ask them for the latest list of attorneys there in Oklahoma.

Please don't feel that this is a lose lose situation. There is something you CAN do. You CAN fight for your daughter. If I was still in Oklahoma I'd drive to Tulsa and I'd go to each and every visitation plus court hearings with you.

This may sound like an off the wall step by why not try something different than most would. Why not ask for supervised visitation at the Indian Child Welfare office? That way the people at the office have say over what is going on and your mom and step-dad don't have as much power. I know it sounds drastic, like you are going backwards but it might be a forward step. This way the ICW (Indian Child Welfare) people can see the way you interact with Allison and then maybe you'll get the chance you need and deserve to have your unsupervised visits.

Idk what to do anymore I'm just sick of fighting with my family. If they wanna adobt Her nothing I can do bc they have money and they will win.

Amanda Please DON'T give up. Just because you don't have money, doesn't mean you won't win.

We know your tired hon but you gotta talk w/Linda & make an attempt, thats what being a moms all about, c'mon you can do this & Lindas got most of the infomation for you to begin, thats a plus w/someone leading/guiding you through huh, heck thats like having an extra mom holding your hand through the process.

Try

Thanks girls. I'm not giving up at all. But I know I won't win I know how my family is. The courts are not letting Allison to be in Chicago with my bc my family lies and say my finance beats us up and that's not true. My mom evil and she will do anything and everything to keep Allison from me... She keeping her from me now... I don't wanna b in Oklahoma at all....